This is a question I get asked often: How do you do it all? The honest answer is—I don’t. Not perfectly. Not every day. But I do strive to live with intention, faith, and grace as I navigate the beautiful (and sometimes overwhelming) roles of queen, mom, and wife.
Here are some of the things that help keep me grounded, organized, and focused on what matters most.
Staying Grounded & Organized
Life is full, and without structure, it can quickly feel chaotic. A few practical tools help me stay together:
- Calendars and reminders to keep schedules from running my life
- Prioritizing what truly matters instead of trying to do everything
- Prayer—asking God daily for strength, wisdom, and peace
- Making sure what I do aligns with God’s truth
- Creating time for myself to reset and recharge
- Reading my Bible daily (and giving myself grace on the days I miss—because that happens)
I’ve learned that consistency matters more than perfection. God meets us where we are.
Wife First
My marriage is a priority. Before I am a mom or a queen, I am a wife.
I make it a point to:
- Be present with my husband and give him my time and attention when he needs it
- Stay connected in fun and meaningful ways
- Schedule date nights just like any other commitment
- Listen to each other with openness and respect
- Share responsibilities—chores, parenting, and the everyday tasks of life—so neither of us feels alone or overwhelmed
- Pray for each other and pray together
- Be open and honest, even when conversations are hard
One of the biggest blessings in my life is having a husband who supports my desires and passions. He may not always understand everything I do—like pageantry—but he is always my biggest supporter. That kind of support matters more than words can express.
Mom Life
Being there for my kids is incredibly important to me. They come after my husband, but I will always be their number one fan, cheering them on through every season of life.
When my two oldest were growing up, I was a single mom working two to three jobs. I missed more than I wanted to, and that experience shaped my heart. With our now five-year-old, I made a decision: I wouldn’t miss as much this time around.
Time is short. Time is precious.
We felt that deeply this year when my son turned 18. It’s a reminder of how fast the years go. Family time is not optional to me—it’s essential. Those moments matter far more than a full calendar or a long to-do list.
Queen Life
Pageantry is more than crowns and sashes for me—it’s sisterhood, connection, and service. Through pageantry, I’ve been able to serve others in meaningful ways through Moms That Matter.
I treat my title like a job—a part-time job. That means:
- Scheduling appearances and commitments six months to a year in advance
- Making room for pageant-related events around my family’s schedule
- Being flexible when opportunities pop up—but only if they fit within our family priorities
- Saying no without hesitation when something interferes with family time
Titles matter, but family matters more.
Seasons of Life
Life moves in seasons, and each season requires adjustment. Sometimes things shift, slow down, or change—and that’s okay. As long as we keep our focus on God and lean into the strength He provides, we can walk through every season with grace.
Even in hard times, joy is still possible.
So live life. Do the things that make you happy. Serve others. Chase the passions God places on your heart. Just be sure to prioritize around what matters most—and never lose sight of family.
That’s how I don’t do it all—but I do it faithfully.
Moms that matter 